When Mom and Dad Align

Four years ago I met a beautiful family of 5. The mom and dad had two boys and one girl. The boys had gone off to college, but the little girl was still in grade school. They noticed she had become very withdrawn, agitated, and started showcasing unusual behaviors.

After much dissection, it became clear that the parents had become withdrawn in their marriage, agitated with one another, and were no longer affectionate. Though it looked different in the child, the root behaviors were the same. Their child was mirroring them.

After taking two simple steps the home environment drastically changed and their daughter began to as well.

Below are the two simple steps they took.

Step #1 was identifying the generational roots that had created unfulfilled expectations. Step #2 required the two parents to give up the argument to align in peace. These two steps may sound simple, but it took courage and deep humility. Needless to say, once the arguments were over, the parents became more affectionate and once the daughter realized things had really changed, her fight-or-flight mechanism turned off. She too began to exhibit signs of more peace.

How could your family dynamic change if you were to bring alignment into your home?

According to the Cleveland Clinic, after participating in family therapy: Almost 90% of people report an improvement in their emotional health. In child-parent cases, about 73% of parents report that their child’s behavior improved.